Definitions for Chapter 503 are here, and this will help you: http://lrc.ky.gov/KRS/503-00/010.PDF
Physical force is defined in the above definitions for Chapter 503. Here it is:
(4) "Physical force" means force used upon or directed toward the body of another person and includes confinement.
Here is the definition of "imminent":
(3) "Imminent" means impending DANGER, and, in the context of domestic violence and abuse as defined by KRS 403.720, belief that danger is imminent can be inferred from a past pattern of repeated serious abuse.
This is the statute that protects our right to protect ourselves against phycial force:
503.050 Use of physical force in self-protection -- Admissibility of evidence of prior acts of domestic violence and abuse.
(1) The use of physical force by a defendant upon another person is JUSTIFIABLE when the defendant BELIEVES that such force is necessary to PROTECT himself against the USE or IMMINENT USE of UNLAWFUL PHYSICAL force by the other person.
Notice the above only speaks about PHYSICAL FORCE and not DEADLY physical force.
If another person UNLAWFULLY harms you in any way or confines you against your will you can defend yourself. The idea that one would have to allow someone to beat on them while attempting to call the police is absurd. Whoever told her that was ignorant!
You can also protect yourself from IMMINENT use of force, which means someone that is threatening to harm you. You do NOT have to wait for them to touch you if they have threatened to cause you harm. You can make sure they cannot physically harm you. No ONE is required to be beaten before they can stop an imminent attack.