So my wonderful wife is getting interested in guns and has been thinking about a gun for OC. She has been shooting for a bit any loves my .22 and .44 rifles but is newer to hand guns We went to a couple of shops and let her handle a few to see what she liked (can't find a rental range to shoot some). She had her mind set on a j-frame, not my first choice for a first gun, but ok I can work with her. Don't get me wrong, love a snubbie but a little harder to shoot accurately for a first timer, but practice,practice,practice. Now we hit another shop and, wait for it, the person behind the counter in a moment of poor judgement decides a first time woman shooter with smallish hands should like this and hands her a .38 cal cobra derringer with pretty pink grips and pink holster. Her eyes lit up, kool aid smile and the this is the one honey. Every time I try to explain the down side she looks like she's gonna cry. Any advise on a good way to change a mind without a fight or tears. I'm proud she wants to start shooting and carrying and I don't want to discourage her from it but I am concerned that a little hand cannon with a 30lb trigger pull and no accuracy, not to mention the other things wrong with it for OC or CC as a primary, will do it for me. So, if anyone else has had to talk a loved one off the ledge I would greatly appreciate some ideas. Thank you.