So, I have read through this. I was 16 when my parents divorced and it was a very stable split. I was old enough to make my own decisions and they allowed that.
Did I get to see my abusive, paranoid schitzo, former marine father as little as i would have liked? No.
I think both parents should stop and take the CHILD into their thoughts.
How old is your child?
Did you make agreed ground rules for raising your child?
Both parents need to be conscious of these things. The father shouldnt make plans on thursdays and should contact the mother in advance. The deal clearly places the child with the Mother for the Majority of time, which means it is the Fathers place to get his house(not just literally) in order. He needs to contact and confirm the pick-up time in advance.
Your childs school gets off at '3:00 pm', he should aim pickups for that time or make the necessary plans with the mother. [The Time is for this example]
As a regular pattern, the mother should be able to plan things around it, without fear of it being altered without good notice and sometimes 24 hours doesnt cut it.
Did I get to see my abusive, paranoid schitzo, former marine father as little as i would have liked? No.
I think both parents should stop and take the CHILD into their thoughts.
How old is your child?
Did you make agreed ground rules for raising your child?
Both parents need to be conscious of these things. The father shouldnt make plans on thursdays and should contact the mother in advance. The deal clearly places the child with the Mother for the Majority of time, which means it is the Fathers place to get his house(not just literally) in order. He needs to contact and confirm the pick-up time in advance.
Your childs school gets off at '3:00 pm', he should aim pickups for that time or make the necessary plans with the mother. [The Time is for this example]
As a regular pattern, the mother should be able to plan things around it, without fear of it being altered without good notice and sometimes 24 hours doesnt cut it.