Esanders, first congratulations on the upcoming birth of what I shall presume is your first child.
To assure the barrister’s guidance is adhered to: ‘provide constructive suggestions’ I am delineating couple of things:
Given(s): (leap of faiths if you will)
a. You and your partner are 23 +/- 5 years old
b. Your mother is Not a single parent caregiver for your brother (My mother and father live together, but there is no real relationship anymore. This is a very complex situation
c. The hormonal imbalance within your partner, at the moment, is beyond tremendous, as such you will need the patience of Job to sustain your presence of mind for upwards to 4 weeks after the delivery.
Unknown(s):
a. Age of your brother: <12?; 12-15?; 15-18 (17)?; >18?
b. Living in mother’s house?
c. Your relationship with your mother while growing up? ‘Normal?’Adversarial? Turbulent?
d. Whether or not your mother approved of your marriage w/your partner?
e. Who started the verbal confrontation? Your partner or your mother?
f. Why didn't you intervene? I did
Question(s);
a. Is this aggressive/combative/confrontational behaviour usual for your mother as something you have experienced during your growing up or something new?
1. If new, when did the behaviour first manifest itself? Over the course of a year and halve or within the last 9-6 months?
2. Has the development of the behaviour slowly developed or manifested itself suddenly and is a stark departure from her normal demeanor?
b. If not new, has the aggressive/combative/confrontational behaviour gotten more violent?
1. If the exhibited behaviour has, when did the behaviour get worse ~ over the course of a year and halve or within the last 9-6 months? Several years
2. If the exhibited behaviour has gotten worse suddenly, again 9-6 months?
Action(s):
a. if this behaviour is out of the norm for your mother and the behaviours have been building for about a year plus, then there is a high probability your mother is/has entered menopause and her hormones are probably imbalanced as much as your partner’s. If she hasn't been recently checked by a ‘female’ physician, recommend you gently persuade her to visit for a complete check up so guidance and appropriate medicine be given to mitigate the menopausal symptoms so her life and your brothers life, everyone’s can return to some stage of normalization.
b. If this aggressive/conflict/etc., type behaviour manifested itself recently, say last six months or so, and this intensity is out of the norm from your growing up experience base, e.g., we all get angry but some individuals flash immediately to a 10 on a 1-10 scale. However, if the behaviour is a known trait within the person those exposed to the person’s explosive anger just stand back as they know from previous encounters how intense the reaction is going to be from the person.
if this is not your mother’s case, and she is not being treated for an accidentally head trauma or other jarring type accident, please get your mother into a doctor’s office immediately and advise the attending physician of her 'new' behaviour traits as well as her comment in court as this type of behaviour COULD indicate a neurological event ‘COULD’ have occurred and if left untreated COULD have serious repercussions to her and the entire family.
Please digest this in earnest, taking whatever animosity currently felt for you mother and logically decide if this behaviour is out of the norm, please consider she could be suffering from a medical condition and direct her to her physician. If, as mentioned, the aggressive/confrontational attitude is new, you will need to provide that type of behavioural information to the doctor personally as your mother might not realize she is exhibiting those traits.
i, nor others should, require any further feedback from this but rather something for you to consider.
depending on the age of your brother, you might need to intervene as your mother's anger COULD be a threat to him, either physically or mental child abuse!!
ipse
