Welcome to OCDO.
Being a newbie to the Wide, Wonderful World of Guns, you probably do not have any idea of the [stuff]-storm that you have opened up by asking "What gun for a woman with small-ish hands?"
Before every Local Gun Store (LGS) clerk wannabe gets a chance to open their pie-hole and insult you with every "This would be perfect for the Little Lady" comment ever made (and usually to the male you had to drag there for a repeat visit after you were ignored when you went there alone) I want to suggest that you read http://www.corneredcat.com/Contents/ - read it "from cover to cover" but pay especial attention to the section on choosing a handgun.
In the interests of full disclosure, I am a "revolver guy" myself. That being said, there are some drawbacks to carrying a revolver as opposed to carrying a bottom-feeding pistol. You need to see and feel the differences, and through experience gain an understanding of the difference in shooting small revolvers as opposed to shooting small-frame pistols before you make your decision on what to buy/carry for self defence.
(And then you get to enter the Wide, Wonderful World of Holsters. If you are lucky you will end up with only one Box of Holsters. )
If you can find a range near you that allows you to rent firearms, go there and try pretty much everything they have available. Lots of folks - of both genders - with small hands have found happiness and bliss with a full-sized 1911, while those with hams for hands have decided that J-frame revolvers are the bee's knees for them.
Stick around and become a regular reader/contributor to OCDO. Get involved in RKBA activities in CO - for the love of the Second Amendment and all else that is holy, get involved! You have some vehemently anti gun rights folks out there, but are blessed with some folks who will not let them easily take your guns away.