Remember that perception of who or what someone else is rests entirely with the perceiver. In other words, we are completely what the other person(s) thinks we are.....to them.
We are not involved in a sporting event where the one who scores the most points always wins. It is more like a battle in the coliseum, where not receiving a serious injury/mortal blow is more important than whether you have vanquished your protagonist. Perhaps in the final consideration, it (the result) is a combination of the two: points scored and perception. Therein rests the need for diplomacy.
Style points count. What we think means little if we cannot affect what others think......and how they act. In the meanwhile we must limit/reduce our injuries - this wont be our only battle.
Now go forward and be fruitful.
Someone please post an update/status on where this all stands now w/o throwing stones.