OC for ME
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Ignore is a good option for those who deny their own words. Rose colored glasses come to mind.
May I suggest that our opinions be distilled into a couple of lines, Clear, Concise and Correct.
My most common complaint to myself is TL;DR, followed by capricious jargon. My ignore list is UUGE even though purged regularly, and used differently - to remind me to think twice before responding to an ignored poster than I might deign to read.
I provided a critique of your behavior and your failure to control your kid in a public setting. I highlighted, specifically, that you chose to let your five y/o be trained in proper manners by a stranger. You not reading my posts will not change the words you posted.Much the same, Nightmare. Since the '80s, my greatest complaint has always involved people who have all the capabilities of discussing the topic at hand in a sensible, rational manner, but then out of the blue start hurtling personal insults in violation of the forum rules. I've got very thick skin, but I'm not going to waste my time reading it much less responding to it. Fortunately, the vast majority of the people on this forum know full well how to behave. Sadly, a handful do not.
I care very much about good, healthy discussion. Personal attacks and insults aren't "good, healthy discussion." It's abusive to others and destructive to the forum at large.
If someone errantly believes my refusal to engage in abuse, manipulation, and forum destruction is donning "rose colored glasses," that's why they're on ignore.
I provided a critique of your behavior and your failure to control your kid in a public setting. I highlighted, specifically, that you chose to let your five y/o be trained in proper manners by a stranger. You not reading my posts will not change the words you posted.
Agreed.Not that anyone needs to get in the middle of you two, but from my perspective, OC for ME, your responses regarding since9's account his child mildly misbehaving has been kind of jerky. If that is your intent, so be it. I think it is the wrong issue to harp on, but to each his own.
If you are not intending to be jerky about it, you might consider on why you are so intent in presenting his words in the least favorable light possible.
Assuming what he posted is accurate, there is nothing there that is terribly out of line with what any number of very responsible parents might choose to do. A youngish child cutting into a line is not the kind of thing that a sensible adult should blow up over and so it is not the type of thing that a parent necessary should need to rush in to helicopter and resolve for the child.
In decent society, decent adults feel a bit of communal obligation to help raise and guide the upcoming generation. Some do so very directly as coaches, scout masters, teachers, or clergy. Others simply do their bit civilly as needed in various situations. Sometimes that bit is to congratulate a young person on a job well done. Sometimes it is to offer correction in a mature, appropriate fashion.
In the semi-rural town where I grew up, every decent adult felt perfectly at liberty to so interact with any child or adolescent in town. And every decent young person knew to show appropriate respect to his elders, never quite sure whether that "stranger" knew his father or not.
One way or another, if you don't intend to continue looking jerky, it is probably time to let the topic drop.
Charles
You could have posted nothing. My critique was spot on given the proclivities of what is considered good parenting when I was a kid and how I have raised my kids. Individual liberty demands that we do not place a undue burden on a fellow citizen where we can avoid doing so. Your view seems to be contrary to my view.Not that anyone needs to get in the middle of you two, but from my perspective, OC for ME, your responses regarding since9's account his child mildly misbehaving has been kind of jerky. If that is your intent, so be it. I think it is the wrong issue to harp on, but to each his own.
If you are not intending to be jerky about it, you might consider on why you are so intent in presenting his words in the least favorable light possible.
Assuming what he posted is accurate, there is nothing there that is terribly out of line with what any number of very responsible parents might choose to do. A youngish child cutting into a line is not the kind of thing that a sensible adult should blow up over and so it is not the type of thing that a parent necessary should need to rush in to helicopter and resolve for the child.
In decent society, decent adults feel a bit of communal obligation to help raise and guide the upcoming generation. Some do so very directly as coaches, scout masters, teachers, or clergy. Others simply do their bit civilly as needed in various situations. Sometimes that bit is to congratulate a young person on a job well done. Sometimes it is to offer correction in a mature, appropriate fashion.
In the semi-rural town where I grew up, every decent adult felt perfectly at liberty to so interact with any child or adolescent in town. And every decent young person knew to show appropriate respect to his elders, never quite sure whether that "stranger" knew his father or not.
One way or another, if you don't intend to continue looking jerky, it is probably time to let the topic drop.
Charles
I provided a critique of your behavior and your failure to control your kid in a public setting...
If I meant that, I would have said that.like the premise of the entire thread?
I deplore hate speech, deplore it I tell you.Hate speech exists, but it ought not be legislated against, nor Found to not fall within persons First Amendment exercise. Whether it's hate speech from the Alt-Right, or hate speech from the Alt-Left, both ought to be Constitutionally protected.
There are certain types of speech that ought to be legislated as a criminal act.
I deplore hate speech, deplore it I tell you.
We on OCDO do have rules on certain types of speech.
When the spoken or written word puts someone at risk of physical harm, the line has been crossed.
Doo do doo, nice to have some time to be back on OCDO, doo do... :shocker: Well that escalated kind of insanely. Alrighty then...And in so doing your rather bizarre critique disqualified yourself from ever commenting on any OCDO family gathering, much less my own, ever again. Have a nice day, but should I ever spot you I will call the cops as you've already pegged yourself as in the 99% psychopath category. I'm forwarding your concerns to my friend with the FBI. Have a nice day.
I highlighted, specifically, that you chose to let your five y/o be trained in proper manners by a stranger. You not reading my posts will not change the words you posted.
And yes, I have SECONDED forwarding ALL of your comments to the FBI. All of the following will be handled off-site.
Back to reality... (sheesh)
Hate speech exists, but it ought not be legislated against, nor Found to not fall within persons First Amendment exercise. Whether it's hate speech from the Alt-Right, or hate speech from the Alt-Left, both ought to be Constitutionally protected.
There are certain types of speech that ought to be legislated as a criminal act.