For the most part, it is a personal preference. Don't worry about the "LEO wannabe" thing. Most of the autopistols carried for personal defense are black - folks just love those Glocks and XD's, LEO and civilian alike. Even with people used to seeing cell phones, etc. being carried by the masses, I think black is less noticeable than polished stainless. Buy what you like that you feel will best suit your carry style. I'm a revolver guy myself, and I opt for the "satin" stainless finish if the manufacturer doesn't offer the model I want in black. This type of finish isn't flashy and doesn't catch light like chrome, which is my biggest complaint with polished stainless. My $0.02.