I am very familiar with the case law that you have mentioned, and I share your opinion that restraining orders are just pieces of paper with no physical power to stop a threat. However, I don't think that we should totally give up on them, yet. They could be important pieces of evidence down the road. If for some reason, the party uses force to defend himself/herself from the other party, violation of the restraining order could be used in addition to other evidence to support a reasonable fear of one's life. Because of this, I think that restraining orders should still be sought, but I agree they cannot stand alone. One mustsupplement them with additional means such as a bodyguard or even better: defensive weapons (such as firearms).