HankT
State Researcher
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Mainsail wrote:
Well, you can read the situation better than anyone. You sound a little vague, though, about the barista's position.
I would agree wholeheartedly that using your best judgment is a good thing. But the old saw of "don't ask a question when you might no like the answer" is a loser of a analytic approach or philosophy. The biggest problem, among many, is that it pretty much guarantees error. Avoidable errors.
One thing I do know, and we've seen this in other OC hassle reportings here regarding retail stores (i.e., unrequited's Barnes & Noble incident)--at some point the manager/employees of the store will ring up the po-lice if they get enough heat/complaints from the other customers. Even if the OCing customer has been there many times before, OCing. As far as I know, no one ever got fired for calling up the cops on a man with a gun....
Good luck to you, regardless of what you decide to do.
Mainsail wrote:
HankT wrote:His demeanor was such that I didn’t feel he was withholding any apprehension; he pretty much told me there wasn’t a problem. The impetus is on him to change the status quo now. I learned in the Air Force you never ask a question when you might not like the answer, instead, you just use your best judgment. If you ask someone if it’s OK to do something and they aren’t sure (or are too lazy to find out), they will just say “no” because that’s the easiest thing to do.If you decide to keep going to the coffee shop, I'd suggest you havea confab with the barista or whoever is in charge to resolve the uncertainty upfront: Do they or will they have a problem with you OCing in the coffee shop.
Honestly, I don’t think they have any problem with it, and I’ve been a regular customer for years. IOW, they know me and I doubt they would have any difficulty asking me to leave or conceal if that was what they wanted. My worry is that the TPD might decide to make life difficult for us if they get enough nervous-Nelly calls. I’m not trying to antagonize them [the TPD], but at the same time I’m not going to accept any grief from them either.
Well, you can read the situation better than anyone. You sound a little vague, though, about the barista's position.
I would agree wholeheartedly that using your best judgment is a good thing. But the old saw of "don't ask a question when you might no like the answer" is a loser of a analytic approach or philosophy. The biggest problem, among many, is that it pretty much guarantees error. Avoidable errors.
One thing I do know, and we've seen this in other OC hassle reportings here regarding retail stores (i.e., unrequited's Barnes & Noble incident)--at some point the manager/employees of the store will ring up the po-lice if they get enough heat/complaints from the other customers. Even if the OCing customer has been there many times before, OCing. As far as I know, no one ever got fired for calling up the cops on a man with a gun....
Good luck to you, regardless of what you decide to do.