My doodad goes in a gunrunner pack. It is not small, and kinda heavy. Pity about your wife's temper,kids, and all.
For what he was going to do I would have had a hard time concealing a dodad anywhere unless it was a really tiny dodad and I only have one dodad, and it's not tiny. I wasn't going to have my wife carry for me, something about her temper and firearms makes for a bad combination. Especially when wrangling the little ones in a busy place.
I did the risk analysis for that trip and it seemed like the odds were in my favor not to need hardware. I happened to be right. I could have gone the concealed route even after being requested not to bring in the hardware, but then I wouldn't have had any integrity - you could say who's to know. Certainly not the doctor at that point. Then again he might. I hadn't gone to visit him with any additional bags to that point, then one day I suddenly take to carrying a bag? Would seem suspicious to me if I was in his position. Could he search me at that point? Could he deny me services if he wasn't allowed to search my bag? I suppose he could, it wasn't a life and death situation that I came to see him about.
I like to OC the majority of the time. I rarely CC. It really depends on the situation. In this situation, I could have CC'd, but I might have been caught. A number of things could have happened at that point, or nothing at all. My decision not to carry at all that day revolved around the fact that I had been requested not to by an educated man who supported gun rights and my right to carry. It made him uncomfortable but not nervous. I wanted him to be neither the next time I saw him. He and I had a good conversation about why I carry the way I do, and was a little stunned that I wasn't a LEO when I met him with my gun in his office the first time. He was stunned that anyone would want to carry that way. At the end of our converstations though, he was still supportive of the 2nd amendment, still supportive of my right to carry, and is a little more educated about other people's rights.
In many way's it's a paradox. How can the good doctor be supportive if he didn't support my right to carry on the day when he was going to operate on me? He didn't kick me out the other visits that I carried, just the day when it was him, me, and the knife. In that particular situation, I'd rather him be relaxed, and have it be on his terms.
WRT my wife, she's intelligent enough to know she shouldn't have ready access to a firearm. Kudos to her, no pity involved. Some people aren't that smart. Kudo's to me for not putting her in those situations. She doesn't want to carry, I can't force her. Not to mention her job wouldn't allow her anyway. My job won't let me either. It's a risk, but there aren't really that many alternatives available to us at this point that will allow us to live the type of lifestyle we have now. Of course I'm open to suggestion