Hi all. I'm new to the opencarry forum so I mostly lurk but being a woman and being new to carrying (since mid-June) I thought maybe I'd add my viewpoint.
My DH never pestered me about getting a gun. I've had my permit to carry concealed for two years and it was just last month that I finally came home and told him, "We need to go buy me my own gun."
I've never seen a man so happy! lol
It has been a slow journey for me but his patience and gentle encouragement through it is in part what helped me get here. There have been some turning points along the way though that were really outside of his control.
Like your wife I felt my DH was superman and he could/would protect us. He had a situation at work where a co-worker basically began stalking him and making scary, threatening comments. (That's when I got my permit.) I started to realize at that time why self protection was necessary. It concerned me that this guy was behaving so crazily toward DH but I was comforted to know that he was able to defend himself.
What made me decide it was time to protect myself
was ending up alone in a room with a meth addict. He wasn't a threat at that moment but sitting there across the table from him I realized that if he were I would be on my own to defend myself and I wasn't prepared. (That's the day I came home and asked for a gun.)
One thing I would suggest to you in helping your wife come to terms with carrying her own firearm is help her to realize she is your backup. After the stalking experience I didn't really think about it like that but I read a news story about a family where the dad was trying to protect his daughters and had the snot beat out of him by a group of guys. The wife and daughters could only stand by helplessly and watch. I remember thinking that if I were armed I would be able to intervene in the event that ever happend to my DH.
And whoever said to go to the cornered cat site is right on the money! I've read her site from top to bottom and it went a long way toward solidifying my resolve. I also post on the women and guns forum and have learned a tremendous amount there. Seeing how many other women carry and actively shoot helped to take away some of the stigma that seems to be associated with guns.
And buy her whatever she wants!!
I have discovered I really, really love to shoot and now I have three handguns, a family membership to the local range and a big ol' gun safe. Oh, and very, very
happy husband. :celebrate
(And just for the record I have four kids ranging in age from 4 to 14 so I overcame that issue too. In fact, the 14 year old knows how to handle the handguns as well so when we aren't home and she's in charge she's the defender. She shot her dad's glock 21 and loved it. Now they are all bugging me to go to the range because they want to shoot mom's gun.