Ibelieve we are talking about respect andrespect is a two way street. You have to give it to get it.
Many years ago I had a teacher that told us respect has to be earned. It cannot be demanded or boughtbut must be earned by respecting others. Unfortunately that teacher was killed in a car wreck about a year later and a whole community cried.
You are absolutely correct with your post.
My personal take on this topic is this; I treat EVERYONE with respect initially, and I continue to do so until a person shows me that they do not deserve it, by showing me none.
People always gripe about the bad attitude that Cop had, or what a *&$#! he was, but I can tell you from experience that usuallythe attitude a Cop projects is a direct response to the attitude he is shown by the person being contacted.
As you can imagine Copscontact some real a$$hats on a regular basis. I have no problem with anyone who wants to discuss a situation in a civil manner, but if you want to act like a jerk, rest assured that you will likely be treated like one.
Also to those who think that all Cops do is harass OC'ers, I personally have not seen or contacted anyone OC'ing in at least 6 years, but I can tell you that the next time I do,they will be shown the respect they deserve.
One has to keep in mind that Police have a duty to check out complaints no matter who makes them or how untrue they are. You may not like the fact that you get contacted, but try to remember that a Cop does not know what kind of personyou are (good or bad), what you're doing (or about to do), or what your mindset is at that moment. The type of response you get will depend on that particular Officers comfort level with the given situation. One's body language, dress, and of course choice of words will influence that response in a negative or positive direction.
Tempering your response with maturity and respect will generally get you a like kind response from most Cops. If some would take a minute to have a civil conversation, you might find that most Cops don't have some big agenda, and aren't out to get you. I oftendeal with the the absolute scum of society, and extremely dangerous criminals,but I also have many chances to contact good people, and have made many friends through my work.
The only thing most Officers want is a little cooperation. Once convinced that all is well, they will soon see that they are not needed there, or the complaint was frivolous,and go on about their duties. The attitude of the person being contacted hasMUCH more influnce on an Officer's attitude and actions than you might imagine.