Would be my choice but that's me. It's pricey(but worth it), 45 acp(I don't like 9mm), SA(My Kimber's trigger pulls like a dream), and you get your lazer grips.
Now that's MY opinion. I am not you.
But if that doesn't do it for you Go to your local gun store and try every handgun in the place. I mean EVERTHING that you would consider carrying. Choose a gun that fits your hand and feels comfortable. Something you could hold and shoot for hours at a time. Narrow it down to three or four and do some research. Post your final choices on here and we'll give you some opinions.
Everyone has their own opinion on what makes a good handgun and what is good for them. The trick is finding out what is good for you. It starts with a comfortable grip, then caliber, then sights and controls.
Give us a few choices and your reasons why you like them and I'm sure you'll get a ton of information and opinions from the rest of the members.