FunkTrooper wrote:You have to decide which is more important to you, carrying the gun, or keeping the girl.So my girlfriend of nearly 3 years does not like the fact that I carry, I have done just about everything for her and am very supportive however she tells me that she doesn't like the Idea of being with someone who carries everywhere. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't know and that's just how she feels I ask her if she would be okay if I conceal carry around her (since I have a permit now) and she says it wouldn't matter. She also turns down the idea of me taking her shooting. I've only started carrying in the last year or so since I've turned 21 and it's not something I really want to give up on. If I'm going to dump her it's now or never as she opened our relationship while where in two different states and I'm feeling a little numb towards her right now.
So my question is what do I do about this should I just be done with it or is it still worth convincing her?
Also to note that she is alright with me owning guns it's carrying them that she has a beef with.
Thanks for the help.
If the girl is more important, then stop carrying, and you're done.
If carrying is more important to you, then you have to present her with the choice of what is more important to her, you, or dating someone who does not carry a gun.
If she picks you, then you keep the girl and the gun. If she picks "no gun" then you keep the gun, but you lose the girl.
The kicker here to me is her saying: "she doesn't know and that's just how she feels"
You are making grown-up decisions here, you both need to be able to figure out why the things that matter to you matter. Communication is key, if you can't frankly discuss this sort of a thing, you probably have other issues to work on even more important.
JMHO, and I am certainly no couples therapist... the advice given here is worth every penny you paid for it!