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    This question may have been asked in the past, but the search didn't bring anything up.

    My wife doesn't support it, but isn't against it. I bought mypistol in December of 01 (shortly after 9/11) with her approval, but only if it was kept under lock and key.I am pretty sure she is afraid of guns. Now that I am more involved with open carry and other constitutional rights I often wear my pistol around the house. If we go out somewhere I dont. She doesn't say anything but I know she doesnt like it. My kids (16 and 13) dont seem to give it a second thought. I was planning on sitting her down and seeing what the deal is, but would like to see how some other members handle the issue.
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    My wife doesn't OC, but by now she's comfortable when I'm OCing. I've had guns (loaded and quickly accessible) in my home for years before we were engaged (almost 1 year ago), and I specifically asked her what her thoughts/feelings were on guns before then. (Not that her opposition would have prevented my commitment, but I just wanted to avoid any confusion later on.)

    I've taken my wife to the shooting range 3-4 times over the past year and a half, and while she's not too fond of my snappy little .40 subcompact , she loves plinking with my .22LR revolver. Two weeks ago she actually readied the shotgun when she was home alone - some shifty-lookin' fella kept ringing the doorbell and knocking over and over and over. He left after a couple minutes, and she never had to utilize the shotgun, thank God. I was pleased that she grabbed it when the possibility of needing it was there.

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    Mine is supportive of me doing it. . I am trying to nudge her into at least CC, which she has thought about if I can get the right gun for her. Other than that she is for it. And lost a bet to me and has to open carry to a meet one of these days. She has gone to a few just hasn't OC'ed yet.

    Everyonce in awhile though she will come out of no where with some bizarre safety tip or worry, most likely from a friend or T.V. but as long as I am reasonable she is.
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    Searched for OC accepted - found these, there are likely others.

    http://opencarry.mywowbb.com/view_to...ht=OC+accepted

    http://opencarry.mywowbb.com/view_to...ht=OC+accepted

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    How does Yooperlady feel about OC?









    I'm going broke buying OC holsters for her!
    Gun control isn't about the gun at all.... for those who want gun control it is all about their own fragile egos, their own lack of self esteem, their own inner fears, and most importantly... their own desire to dominate others. And an openly carried gun is a slap in the face to all of those things.

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    Mines not to crazy about it either. She doesn't mind CC but would rather I don't OC with her.

    When we've gone shooting, she liked the S&W j-frame, the S&W 22a. She even liked the shotgun till I put a 3" mag in it. But one she didn't like was the sc .40, Which after getting my XDm 40 I don't like much either.

    I think with a little bit more prodding. I might be able to get her to take a CC class.
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    Mines OK but she still sometimes ask why. I just say it's better to have it and not need then to need it and not have it
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    Mine first was :what: why?

    Later saw the benefit first hand when I had to draw in the middle of a dark parking lot after midnight to protect her. Reported but never solved.

    She has come full circle and CCs and OCs as is appropriate for where she is - her choice - every day.......and night.

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    Sabotage70 wrote:
    Mines not to crazy about it either. She doesn't mind CC but would rather I don't OC with her.
    Same here. She has her CWP, and carries herself when out by herself. She gets uneasy when I OC. She doesn't have a cow when I do it, but she really doesn't like it.

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    First, understand that she is going to process this differently than you. She may need more time and more discussion. Sitting her down with the goal of gaining her buy-in may not achieve the result you are hoping for.

    How familiar is your wife with firearms? My wife and I spent some time in the military, so the concept of weapons as a tool was not a foreign concept. Same could be said for someone who grew up around hunting or competitive shooting. Having a gun in the home for self defense seemed logical.

    What are her thoughts regarding current politics? We both tend to think conservative when it comes to politics, and she thought the idea of supporting the Second Amendment by OC'ing was an effective strategy.

    How safe does she feel when the two of you are out late at night? After OC'ing a short while, my wife began asking me if I had my handgun before we left. She began to feel safer, realizing that without a firearm the bad guys get to make all the decision. As an armed citizen, we have options. The last time my wife met her friends at a local coffee shop at night, they asked *her* to walk them out!

    I say we, because she has followed down both the OC and CC trail, not because I pushed, but because she had the time to think through it and make her own decision. We got to spend a lot of time together visiting ranges so that she could try out several handguns - that was a blast!

    Ask her to accompany you to a range when the range is fairly quiet (call to see when this is). Rent or borrow a 22 rifle, then when she can load, shoot and clear, move her to a small caliber handgun (.22, .25, .380..). We are always nervous about stuff we don't know a lot about - she just needs some time to slowly build confidence.

    I learned a lot about my wife through this process and have a lot of respect for her ability to handle herself and her Sig P239. Good luck with the adventure, and let us know how it goes!

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    Mrs. Springfield usually OC's her Sig P226 in .40S&W, when OC isn't the best option for her, she conceals her Glock 27 .40S&W instead. We also enjoy frequent range trips together when our schedules allow. We have been together for about
    3 years, before we met, she never even handled a firearm, but was curious to go
    shooting. After she felt comfortable handling a firearm safely, and becoming rather
    accurate with it, she was eager to get her LTCF.


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    My wife comes from a country where guns are illegal and crime is low. She thinks that gun crime is high here because we have guns. When we first got married she told me that she didn't want me to own guns - it was a compromise that she had to make because I was basically born with a 22 in my hand. She doesn't believe in using a gun to defend herself - she says she'd rather die than shoot someone. It was a major feat just to get her interested in going to the range.

    All that being said, my wife doesn't seem to have a problem with me OC'ing, we just decided to accept our political differences.

    At some point I may have to defend her, maybe then she'll take it more seriously.

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    She did say she would rather I CC, butits not an option at this time in Wisconsin. She generally doesn't have any fear when we are out, I am not small, and used to be (in my younger days) a bit of a scrapper. I am not a young man anymore and cant move like I used to. If something were to happen I may not be able to defend her as well

    l also believe that the right to bear arms should be exercised. I don't think she really understands the whole 2A thing. She grew up with a family that didn't have guns, and probably didn't talk about it.The funny thing is her dad decided about a year ago to get a revolver. I really didn't ask him why he felt it was time, but applauded his decision.
    What part of "shall not be infringed" don't you understand?

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    CarryOpen wrote:
    My wife comes from a country where guns are illegal and crime is low.
    What country does she come from? From what I have heard most countries that outlaw ownership of guns have skewed visions of the crime statistics because they don't get reported on in the paper and news programs.

    I grew up in a quiet neighborhood, and crime happened on the "north" side of the city. It wasn't until I had moved out of my parents house and was on my own that I realized that crime isn't just what you hear about on the news.
    What part of "shall not be infringed" don't you understand?

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    My wife only gets upset when I try to carry her gun, if I am OC'ing my own its OK. If I actually tried to take it from her I'm likely to get shot :what: All kidding aside, initially she didn't like it but changed her mine after she got her own gun and started OC'ing. I OC about 90% of the time and she OC's about 30% of the time but its always with her.
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    My wife OC's... and has done so from day one. She also has an AZ CWP for traveling beyond AZ into TX etc. where OC is not recognized. When I'm not home she keeps 'something' handy-by but does not carry in the house. (I do) She's a very proficient shooter as well.

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    My wife's step dad is a now retired LEO so she did not make any issue about it when I started to OC, but she found it a bit odd.

    She started watching the news, and decided to go with me when I took CHP class so she could have one too. We should be applying for them shortly, as soon as we have the $$. I don't see her doing much OC because of her line of work, but will CC as she thinks necessary when she gets her permit. Biggest deal is I did not push, I just let her decide for herself.

    Doesn't care to shoot much, but can handle her revolver fine. She was very happy to get it when I bought it for her. She has agreed that she should make an occasional range trip to be sure she stay familiar with her S&W and on target with her shots.

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    My insignificant other hates it. We are getting divorced in two weeks, thank goodness. My significant other understands it and supports it, I just haven't got her to carry yet. She loves that I took her daughter shooting at 12 and taught her about guns too!
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    Mine thinks CC is good, but OC is just asking for trouble.

    Doesn't understand it can prevent trouble and be easier to access in very short order.

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    Mine OC's as well so it's not an issue. She doesn't always carry...if she's with me, and especially now that I have my CHP; but, when I OC now, I usually have a BUG concealed on me that I can hand her, if needed.

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    Wife is fine with my CC.

    When it comes to OC, she says "Baaaaa, Baaaaa" with maybe a bleat thrown in.

    She has many other redeeming qualities, however.
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    riverrat10k wrote:
    Wife is fine with my CC.

    When it comes to OC, she says "Baaaaa, Baaaaa" with maybe a bleat thrown in.

    She has many other redeeming qualities, however.
    Her selection of spousal unit is superior, right?

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    riverrat10k wrote:
    When it comes to OC, she says "Baaaaa, Baaaaa" with maybe a bleat thrown in.
    So do you purposely OC in the bedroom? (forgive me... I couldn't resist)

    My Ex-wife doesn't like it but understands it is the law in VA for restaurants serving alcohol. Once the law is changed I am sure she will be totally against it. She condescendingly criticizes me for OC-ing around the house. I guess in her eyes I should lock the gun away as soon as I get home and rearm when I leave the house. That is definitely not the way I see it!

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    My wife comes from a country where guns are illegal and crime is low.
    What country does she come from? From what I have heard most countries that outlaw ownership of guns have skewed visions of the crime statistics because they don't get reported on in the paper and news programs.

    I grew up in a quiet neighborhood, and crime happened on the "north" side of the city. It wasn't until I had moved out of my parents house and was on my own that I realized that crime isn't just what you hear about on the news.
    Japan - you are correct that much of the crime goes unreported there, but they still have a very low incidence of violent crime. What crime they do tend to have is either criminal-on-criminal or crime against women that goes unreported/uninvestigated. Most of that is not done with weapons though, from my understanding, so I can still see where she comes from, we just don't agree about it.

    She says the difference is guns, I say the difference is the way they are socialized.

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    CarryOpen wrote:
    She says the difference is guns, I say the difference is the way they are socialized.
    I agree with that. I watched a program about Japan on TLC, and they did say that the crime rate is very low. Most reported crimes are non-violent such as pick-pocket or burglary and petty theft. The Japanese culture is all about honor, and very strict. Then they tell of the Yakuza, an ultra-viloent sub-culture inJapan. Unfortunately your wife is no longer in Japan, and needs to adapt to the more western style culture. The USA is a violent culture, that is true, but as said in the past. An armed society is a polite society.
    What part of "shall not be infringed" don't you understand?

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