Having only one car sucks.

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My grandma told me today that if I felt the need to carry a gun on my hip or at all, then I'm not allowed to drive her car. Which leaves me in the position of sitting around the house with my thumb up my ass. I'm not leaving the house without my gun, end of story. Which also means I cant go out and find a new job after being laid off at Angola.

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Nikki_Black wrote:

My grandma told me today that if I felt the need to carry a gun on my hip or at all, then I'm not allowed to drive her car. Which leaves me in the position of sitting around the house with my thumb up my ass. I'm not leaving the house without my gun, end of story. Which also means I cant go out and find a new job after being laid off at Angola.

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Don't let her know/see thatyou have it

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That's what I was thinking. I'll just conceal it until I get down my driveway. Haha.

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Nikki_Black wrote:

That's what I was thinking. I'll just conceal it until I get down my driveway. Haha.

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BTW, what was your position at "The Farm" where they needed to layoff employees--if you don't mind me asking.

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Corrections Cadet. The low man on the totem pole has to suffer the most.

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Nikki_Black wrote:

Corrections Cadet. The low man on the totem pole has to suffer the most.

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Sorry to hear that Nikki. I've been laid off over two years now with no glimmer of hope in the near future. Michigan has been going down the toilet for over three years and it's getting worse by the day. :?

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Nikki_Black wrote:

Which leaves me in the position of sitting around the house with my thumb up my ass.

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SpringerXDacp wrote:

Don't let her know/see thatyou have it

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Nope. Wrong answer.

If you are going to be given an ultimatum, the proper reaction is to ALWAYS respond in the negative. By reacting with compliance, you reward the person offering the ultimatum.By rewarding the person who offers the ultimatum, you will only GUARANTEE further ultimatums.

If you dislike ultimatums, the proper response is to punish the person who offers it for offering it in the first place. This will insure receiving them is less likely in the future.

Don't let her know/see thatyou have it

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Exactly what Gran desires.



The proper response to discourage further ultimatums:

When you "sit around the house with your thumb up your ass"....

....do it fully armed. Openly carry your handgun from dawn to dusk. At the dinner table, doing the dishes, watching T.V. Clean it often while Gran is in the room. Wear it in your pajamas. Have it with you 24/7.

No car is not the end of the world. What an excellent opportunity to brush up on your OC skills. Use this opportunity to go for enjoyable OC walks around the neighborhood. Make sure you say, "I'm going for a walk, Gran!" as you head out the door waving goodbye. (With your strong side facing her so she can see your firearm, of course) Make sure you have your recording device with you.

The best way to ensure you often get the car taken away is to let her ultimatum defeat you.

Work on getting your own car. Once this is accomplished, it provides less purchase for Gran's car to be used as a bargaining chip for behavior.

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sounds to me like you need to grow up nikki! live somewhere else,,, get a job, get your own car,, you need your own life. go do that , then tell us all how its working out for you.

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1245A Defender wrote:

sounds to me like you need to grow up nikki! live somewhere else,,, get a job, get your own car,, you need your own life. go do that , then tell us all how its working out for you.

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I take it you have no idea how badly the economy sucks all over the place? According to nikki's profile birthday is 1991, so lets just call him/her 19.... im 22 graduated college and living at home because nobody is hiring and danm if I'm gonna move out on my part time job. but I been hearing good things about military.

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Are you living in Grandma's house? Is it Grandma's car you are borrowing?

If so....

Then................ tough!!! Granny's house... Granny's rules. Granny's car... Granny's rules.

Don't like it?

Get your own house and your own car and live by your own rules!!!

Economy rough? Hard to find a job to earn the money to buy your own house and car? Have to live with Granny for now?

Tough! Live by Granny's rules in Granny's house and be damn glad Granny is generous enough to let you use her car.

Sure the economy sucks... but there are jobs for those willing to wash dishes or shovel shit. And for those unwilling to "man up" and do whatever it takes to get by then there are other States to move to.

If I were Granny and was confronted with such an ungrateful attitude from someone I was allowing to stay with me I'd boot 'em out!

But then, in my house there wouldn't be any problem with carrying a gun.... but a lack of appreciation for my allowing someone to stay in my house would create a problem.. a problem that would be solved by that person finding a different house to live in right quick!

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First response to this post is- Get a car. I know this sounds like a big investment, but it's not. For example- search Craigslist.org. I'm 23 years old and I'm a "success" story in light of these posts

I was born and raised in Detroit, Michigan. I had one working parent and an older brother and an older sister. My parents has a really beat up 92 Grand Prix 4 door that they gave to my brother when he turned 16. My brother blew up the motor before I was old enough to get the car myself as a hand-me-down. I was 15 when it happened. Now my mom had always warned me "Don't get a job until you absolutely need one!" and the time had struck the hour. I got a job at Taco Bell, next to the mall, in the ghetto. I worked there, humiliated, for 2 and a half years until I had enough money for a down payment on a new car. I got a 2003 Ford Mustang- brand new. Mind you this was when Detroit was just on the verge of being a complete Hell-hole. We still had a strong dollar against the Canadians and our new casinos just went up- so we had a little thing going at the time. Fast forward to 2005- Detroit is in utter disarray. Everyone is robbing everyone for a couple pills and a pair of sneakers. I graduated high school and, like previous posters- felt very stuck in my position. I felt like my parents lived in Detroit, all my family, my school, my friends- there was no way out. No offense but I realized that was just a bull shit excuse I was using to hold Myself Back. I never realized it, though, until I broke up with a very serious girlfriend- broke my heart- and I had deep thoughts.

Basically because I couldn't take the pain of heartbreak- I decided to move to Denver, Colorado. Denver wasn't an out-of-the-blue decision, I was here before on vacation two winters before I moved. So what did I do? I packed all my clothes and just my laptop- I put them into my Mustang and I drove to Denver.

This is where the magic happens- I couldn't afford my car payments anymore- because I had no job and no income. It was just me and my car and Denver. When I first got here- I parked downtown and used my laptop on free wifi to get on Craigslist. I found a few people renting houses in the mountains- so I called right away. I lucked out when a guy told me he needed to fill a room right away, for $400 a month. I only had $1000 left in my bank account from Taco Bell paychecks. I drove straight to his house and I followed him to a little restaurant nearby. We had dinner and really hit it off. I told him that I JUST got here hours ago from Detroit and he agreed to let me stay at his place that night and I would sign an agreement the next day. I got a job at the local Staples Office Supply that was a block away from this new house- I called the bank (Wachovia) and had them come repo my Mustang (still owned a few thousand in payments). I turned my back on thousands upon thousands of dollars in credit card debt- I walked to Staples everyday for over a year. I saved up $1000 for another car- only because I wanted one- not because I needed one at this point. I paid $575 for a 1992 Chevy s10 Blazer 4x4. I put $200 into it with parts and the rest is history-

Now I am self employed- live in a condo in Lakewood- still drive my $575 truck- and am living the dream.

It's very very possible for all of you that feel stuck or helpless in a terrible situation. That's all I wanted to say. Best of luck to you Nikki- I would start looking for a beater truck like I found- $575 and drives all day.

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I walked everywhere for years. Other people's cars, other people rules. Buckle down and find a way to get what you want, but don't force your politics on Grandma, it's not worth it to treat family that way. If she finds out that you lied and broke her trust, how will your situation be?

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My grandma doesn't allow me to live here. I pay half the rent, which is all of the money I make doing odd jobs around town. My name is on the lease. Besides, what's the point of posting if you aren't going to be helpful?

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I tried craigslist before without finding a vehicle reliable enough to be a daily driver. I also live in a small town 30 mins from any major population center. In this small town, nobody is hiring. I'm currently training to be a LEO. But that job is only part time. Economy in Louisiana sucks, big time.

PS: Yes, I am a guy.

PPS : To be clear, I am not whining about it. I'm simply stating the facts.