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Nikki_Black wrote:
Which leaves me in the position of sitting around the house with my thumb up my ass.
SpringerXDacp wrote:
Don't let her know/see thatyou have it
Nope. Wrong answer.
If you are going to be given an ultimatum, the proper reaction is to ALWAYS respond in the negative. By reacting with compliance, you
reward the person offering the ultimatum.By rewarding the person who offers the ultimatum, you will only GUARANTEE further ultimatums.
If you dislike ultimatums, the proper response is to punish the person who offers it for offering it in the first place. This will insure receiving them is less likely in the future.
Don't let her know/see thatyou have it
Exactly what Gran desires.
The proper response to discourage further ultimatums:
When you "sit around the house with your thumb up your ass"....
....do it fully armed. Openly carry your handgun from dawn to dusk. At the dinner table, doing the dishes, watching T.V. Clean it often while Gran is in the room. Wear it in your pajamas. Have it with you 24/7.
No car is not the end of the world. What an excellent opportunity to brush up on your OC skills. Use this opportunity to go for enjoyable OC walks around the neighborhood. Make sure you say, "I'm going for a walk, Gran!" as you head out the door waving goodbye. (With your strong side facing her so she can see your firearm, of course) Make sure you have your recording device with you.
The best way to ensure you often get the car taken away is to let her ultimatum defeat you.
Work on getting your own car. Once this is accomplished, it provides less purchase for Gran's car to be used as a bargaining chip for behavior.