I think the reason many women don't carry or are afraid of guns comes down to:
-Girls are still raised to be...girls. Guns and shooting are not considered "girly".
-Feminist groups are anti gun- so damned if you do and damned if you don't. Go ahead and be manly and work a construction job, or be a CEO, or whatever "man job" you wish. Burn your bra, don't carry a purse, and have muscles from being at the gym everyday with the weight machines. But heaven forbid you own or carry a gun!
-fashion- many women adhere to fashion and women's fashion doesn't tend to blend with means of carrying. Purse carry to me is verbotten, andI am sure many women have also thought of the possible purse snatcher, and just given up on the idea of carrying because how to you carry with the fashions?
-Easy brainwashing by anti gunners- Sarah Brady, MMM,etc- women led groups and cries to "save the children". These groups make women think 911 is all they need.
The pool of women left over seem to be the strong independant ones, kind of like those pioneer women who had to tough it out in the 18th and 19th centuries of this country. This is true American spirit. Think of Annie Oakley who had to hunt and trap to feed her siblings. This breed of woman was not the delicate tightly corsetted Victorian who relied on men to keep her safe.
NowI don't know the stats on lesbians and the overall attitude of guns among this demographic, butI understand many of the gay groups are anti gun. I am happy to see that Pink Pistols has a following, even if small. Today I saw a woman who looked like the stereotype of "tough butchy lesbian" at the Tractor Supply store. This was in PA, and all she needed to complete her tough look was open carry! For the record I do know some lesbians who are pro gun and carry, but they live in MD.