Well, yep... I guess being a poor judge of character cost me 4 grand in that I had a friend of low character who would stiff me.
We're not talking here about people who don't have the ability to pay due to some difficult circumstances. If the friend said "I lost my job. I can't pay you back the $10,000 I borrowed from you. Here's the guitar back, sorry it's only worth $5,000 now." I'd be bummed. Obviously, I'd never loan him another dime. Not even in seven years.
But if that friend said, "You know what man... just have this guitar back. It's gone down in value and I don't want to have to pay $10,000 for it since it's only worth $5K." He didn't lose his job... still has income... but he wants to stick me with an asset worth half of the amount of money I borrowed from him. Not that he doesn't have the ability to pay... he just wants ME to carry the burden for his mistake. I was his best bud when he came to me wanting the loan, but when it turned sour, he's going to saddle me with the loss for his screw up.
Walking out on one's mortgage, barring that you were somehow mentally unfit to sign a contract, just because your property depreciated and you're angry about it, is passing your mistakes onto others. I'm not sure what your defense is of that. I think you're saying that it's my fault for not trusting him and he bears no responsibility for being a dead beat?
Of course, I just used the guitar analogy. Maybe a vintage guitar wouldn't lose 50% of its value, but houses have! And in a recession when money is tight, something is worth whatever you can sell it for. And the point here is, I'm not talking about people who lost jobs, were laid off, and due to terrible financial hardship find themselves with no other option but to go into foreclosure. I feel sorry for those people. The people I DON'T feel sorry for, who I think are gaming the system, are the people who KNEW full well what they were doing, bought that property hoping to make a bundle, they STILL have plenty of income, but they for some reason feel that they should make someone else pay the price for their bad decision. They make a calculated decision to push the loss off on someone else, and cause another party to lose an investment, so they can keep their money and do the same deal again some day.
Yes... I suppose the person could just say to the lender "Sorry... your fault for trusting me and expecting me to keep my word." I just was never taught that blaming the person I cheated for trusting me was acceptable. I know there are certain cultures in the world where that's the prevailing attitude, but not the culture in which I grew up. I'm just sayin'. To each their own. Every one can get to decide what is ethical and what isn't. Moral relativism and all that.