Look for a thread posted each Thursday or Friday of the week by either Grapeshot or Skidmark, usually, that details when/where the breakfast for that Saturday will be. River City Diner on Parham is a favorite spot.
There is also a thread around the beginning of each month, usually started by HLH, that details a dinner location and time for, normally, the second Tuesday of the month in the Richmond area.
They aren't VCDL breakfast and dinners, per se, as they are more just simply open carry breakfasts and dinners with many/most of the attendees being VCDL members.
Example breakfast thread:
Example dinner thread: