It's Raleigh or Charlotte. We don't want to be in the sticks with the rednecks. Raleigh seems the more urbane option, of the two, but I can't say that I would really know. We haven't decided to move there, but it (or Charlotte) is our number one option, right now.
EDIT: An up-side to Charlotte is that Reformed Theological Seminary is there, and I've been considering an MA in Religion.
To many North Carolinians, Charlotte isn't North Carolina- it's South Carolina
Both have their good and bad points, really. I prefer Raleigh and surrounding area over Charlotte. It's closer to the beach, and still close enough to the mountains if you want to head that way. For sports, Raleigh has the Hurricanes, where as Charlotte has the sorry Panthers and some obscure basketball team. The Raleigh area is THE hub for ACC hoops too. On the flip side, Charlotte and the surrounding towns own NASCAR and has the highest concentration of race teams located in one area in the country.
In jsut a short drive from Raleigh you have the beach, Washington DC, Savannah, Charlotte, the mountains. New England is roughly 11 hours away and Daytona is about 12 or so in the opposite direction.
In just a short drive from Charlotte you have....mountains.
Atlanta's down the road a piece too, before you hit the megalopolisisisisis of Alabama and Mississippi (yay)
I do want to add that if you decide on the Raleigh area, you may want to settle into one of the surrounding counties besides Wake. Wake County has high taxes, a ridiculous school board, and more taxes. Surrounding counties such as Johnston, Harnett, and others are less expensive to live in. However, if you're not worried about the cost of living, Wake is good too, pretty much.