ixtow
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I don't think you'll get through arguing. Put a splinter in her mind with something simple... Give her something profound enough she has to think about it whether she wants to or not. I'm willing to bet that using this technique has won me more converts than every other person on this forum combined.
I've moved staunch Liberal moonbats that make Obama look Conservative, from hating guns and cursing my name in public for owning one, to buying their own AK47 in under a week. All you have to do is plant the seed. Remember, truth and facts are on our side. You have to break the Faction Agenda barrier, and the lives of their children usually do that. I've met few people who place their Political Faction's Agenda above their Children's Lives. You break that barrier, and all the talking points disappear. They call out their own bullsh!t. They can't help but think about it.
"Would you rather I lament how there was nothing I could do at her funeral? Helplessness never made anyone safer."
"'We never expected it in OUR neighborhood [sob sob sob] Now my baby is dead!' Isn't that what all the news reports say?"
I sometimes use a counter-aggression "Sad, that I care more about your daughter than you do." but that doesn't seem appropriate here.
Accept the fact that you can't fix stupid. If she is stupid, don't waste your time. And definitely don't change your ways to suit her neurosis. Bending down and being a weakling, appeasing the hateful... It only makes you look pathetic. They'll both lose respect for you and the hen-pecking and harassment will only get worse. If she doesn't like it, she can close her damn eyes.
If it comes to this, and she is too juvenile or stupid to respect you, then find a more tactful way to tell her to fock off.
"I'm not going to waste my time casting pearls before [those who cannot understand the value]. We can continue the petty bickering unto it's final stupidity, or we can stop talking about what you don't understand and maintain some civility."
Don't raise your voice when she interrupts you, and she will... Just keep saying what you have to say, and DO NOT repeat yourself. You're dealing with a brat who things she can subdue you because of the relationship. At the risk of sounding sexist, I bring up the experience that women have a policy of abusing relationships to bully men. They use the thought of possible emotional pain to get you to bend to their will. Is this what a loving family does to each other? No. Don't be afraid to point out that you're on to her game, and that you don't appreciate the fact that she is using your relationship with her daughter to be emotionally abusive.
It'll either work, or it won't. Sack up. Don't let her frustrate you to the point that you are reactive, take pre-emptive action. If you just grin and bear it, she'll only pile on more. If you give in, the floodgates will open.
Soften it up, or not... But stand your ground. Refuse to be spiteful, not matter how much you want to be.
I've moved staunch Liberal moonbats that make Obama look Conservative, from hating guns and cursing my name in public for owning one, to buying their own AK47 in under a week. All you have to do is plant the seed. Remember, truth and facts are on our side. You have to break the Faction Agenda barrier, and the lives of their children usually do that. I've met few people who place their Political Faction's Agenda above their Children's Lives. You break that barrier, and all the talking points disappear. They call out their own bullsh!t. They can't help but think about it.
"Would you rather I lament how there was nothing I could do at her funeral? Helplessness never made anyone safer."
"'We never expected it in OUR neighborhood [sob sob sob] Now my baby is dead!' Isn't that what all the news reports say?"
I sometimes use a counter-aggression "Sad, that I care more about your daughter than you do." but that doesn't seem appropriate here.
Accept the fact that you can't fix stupid. If she is stupid, don't waste your time. And definitely don't change your ways to suit her neurosis. Bending down and being a weakling, appeasing the hateful... It only makes you look pathetic. They'll both lose respect for you and the hen-pecking and harassment will only get worse. If she doesn't like it, she can close her damn eyes.
If it comes to this, and she is too juvenile or stupid to respect you, then find a more tactful way to tell her to fock off.
"I'm not going to waste my time casting pearls before [those who cannot understand the value]. We can continue the petty bickering unto it's final stupidity, or we can stop talking about what you don't understand and maintain some civility."
Don't raise your voice when she interrupts you, and she will... Just keep saying what you have to say, and DO NOT repeat yourself. You're dealing with a brat who things she can subdue you because of the relationship. At the risk of sounding sexist, I bring up the experience that women have a policy of abusing relationships to bully men. They use the thought of possible emotional pain to get you to bend to their will. Is this what a loving family does to each other? No. Don't be afraid to point out that you're on to her game, and that you don't appreciate the fact that she is using your relationship with her daughter to be emotionally abusive.
It'll either work, or it won't. Sack up. Don't let her frustrate you to the point that you are reactive, take pre-emptive action. If you just grin and bear it, she'll only pile on more. If you give in, the floodgates will open.
Soften it up, or not... But stand your ground. Refuse to be spiteful, not matter how much you want to be.
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