First off, thanks for your family's service.
I'm sure that 3 year old deserves to grow up with a father. Especially when the mom is serving. So why no proper riding attire? Image?
Very long and difficult/confusing answer, but i'll try to explain MY PERSONAL VIEW as best as i can without writing a whole page.
****DISCLAIMER. I am a firm believer that each rider has to make his/her OWN DECISIONS. YOU have to weigh your options and what is right for YOU. If you have to ASK ME WHAT YOU SHOULD DO (basically implying you're not adult enough to make your own decisions and be responsible for your own actions), i will tell you ALL THE GEAR ALL THE TIME.
1) I have ridden without, with 1/2 and with full face helmets. I can't stand full face helmets for comfort, lack of visibility (i personally feel i loose more peripheral vision than i care to with a fullface i'd rather see what is about to hit me and dodge it, than to hope my helmet will protect me from a semi about to run me over), and lack of directional hearing and hearing speed (my personal experience that i hear more and sooner without a helmet.) for what it's worth, i've noticed that when i honk my air horn on my bike around helmeted riders, most of them don't notice it. but if i do the same around non-helmeted riders, most of them immediately respond with evasive or pre-cautionary measures.
2) I'm very torn on the subject of helmet or not, because while i know that they CAN protect you, i also know there is NO GUARANTEE, and NO RESET button.
--i have been behind a bike with zero riding gear as he crashed in a turn at 50mph and walked away with nothing more than bumps and bruises and we continued riding. that same person has already been in numerous crashes either of his own doing, or other peoples faults with no gear, and has no injuries to show for it.
--I have been behind a bike with ONLY a helmet that crashed in a turn at 80mph and him and the bike were catapulted off the road and down a 10foot embankment, and he only had a bruised ankle and no other injuries or impact signs to the helmet and continued riding (yes the bike survived that crash) another 30miles back to camp.
--i have friends who have told me stories of their numerous crashes WITHOUT gear who all walked away with more or less roadrash.painful yes. but you can get major injuries in almost any sport. i once barrel rolled my jeep cherokee at 50mph. i know friends who have shattered their complete leg falling down stairs because they tripped.
On the flip side,
--I personally know a guy who crashed at 70mph wearing FULL GEAR. he was in a coma for a year, and while he is still alive, there are times i wonder (specially at his age) if what he is enduring now was worth surviving for.
--I had a neighbor. young guy (early 20's) who had a 1year old daughter. he wanted to be save for her, so he wore FULL GEAR. never saw him without. the last time i saw him, he was proudly showing me his brand new helmet and armored riding jacket. he was dead the next time. got into a wreck and snapped his back in several places. dead on site.
--i have also seen enough news reports of people have been in wrecks WITH HELMETS, and still died.
like i said.....no guarantees. the way i look at it. I could die while working on my roof, working under a car, in a car crash, from an armed robber, from slipping on ice and cracking my skull, from rollerblading, from off-roading and rock crawling my jeep, drunk driver, medical malpractice, being shot just for being in the wrong place at the wrong time, or because a suicide bomber decides to blow up a building (sorry, just trying to make a point on how NOTHING is predictable or safe) etc..etc..etc..etc..etc..etc.. am i supposed to avoid every aspect of life, because "it may kill me"???
as for the rest of my body.....well if my head gets ripped off, it won't matter what shape my body is in. i try to wear a vest most of the time, so i at least have "some" protection from roadrash around the vital organs. i can live with scars. heart has to keep pumping though.
i used to wonder if i would life past age 25. do you know why??? youngest man to die on my dads side of the family of..........HEART ATTACK was 26years old.
I've been in more car wrecks since i was a kid in the backseat than most people i know. i've had work related accidents and close calls that many people never encounter in their life. i nearly had a doctor kill me by carelessly grabbing the wrong medication, and for the last roughly 7 years i haven't been able to support my family because god suddenly decided to bless me with a rare health disorder that has no known treatment and known known cure. but it's put my wife through
hell for the last 7 years, and i've missed my sons 1st x-mass and his 2nd b-day because of it.
basically i've decided......Life is to short. when the grim reaper pulls your number for todays drawing, NOTHING in the world will save you. so i'd rather enjoy my life while it's here, and enjoy the time i have with my wife and son and teach him to enjoy life, than to spend what little time i may have in fear, hiding and constantly "baby proofing" everything and miss out on life.
crap......keeping things short is really hard when you're trying to explain something without causing misunderstandings. sorry. LOL
Is that a Yamaha with Memphis Shades fairing and Harley FLH bags???
close.
Suzuki volusia VL800
Memphis Shades fairing off of a Honda VTX (different mounting setup) adapted with $10 Harley windshield fork clamps
Harley Hardbags mounting system mocked up after the factory harley system, while utilizing the stock suzuki mount points
4" pullback risers (move handle bars up and back more)
lowered roughly 2" in the back
home made 2" lift inside the front forks (keep spikes out of radiator)
home made 3" forward controls (copied after another companies design)
converted to LED lighting (reduced lighting power consumption from roughly 90watts to barely 3watts)
flat LED strips down side of fairing and wrapped around forks for "hidden" front turn signals.
rear flush mounted DOT trailer lights with fully functioning run/brake/turn and hazard.
air horn
flush mounted cigarette lighter with flush plug in USB adapter in speedo housing for charging any USB device
stock rear pegs flipped side to side so still functional with the huge saddle bags
custom highway pegs (15minute prototype, still need to modify and finish them)
air cleaner removed from right side of engine and open element installed centered under the tank
air pump removed from left side of engine (so both sides of engine are equally visible. looks cleaner i think)
custom made plug in jumper cables (plug jumper cables into side of bike when needed. no need to remove seat or other parts anymore.)
custom speedometer face place
speedometer stop pin (pin sticking up on left side by 0mph)is a brass spike taken out of the inside of a jeep cassette deck)
coin holder from jeep wrangler on master cylinder reservoir (looks near stock. blends in very well)
leather drink holder mounted to front of left saddle bag (soon upgrading to 4 bottle capacity)
home made power ports in right side cover to power heated riding gear, or plug in battery tender.
dual cigarette adapter power ports inside right saddle bag with removable USB plug-in
low profile convertible gps/cell phone mount center of handle bars for storing/charging cell phone, and to use it as navigation device. can also be used with both of my other gps devices rather than needing a different mount for each one.
heated grips
saddleman profiler (i think) seat (slightly modified for clearance issues with my saddle bags)
approximately 100 spikes +/- between front and rear fender.
fenders, saddle bags and gas tank sanded and spray painted black.
all the work done by myself with help from the wife laying out and measuring the grid for the spikes, and some friends help with a couple custom parts (for the forward controls).
not sure if you wanted to know all that. but i like my bike.