No, you are the enabler, you are blaming the victim for not correcting circumstances that are beyond their control.
How fortunate you are that you have not had "to buy" these "excuses" before. Do you have no clue how much that makes YOU sound like an abuser? Apparently not.
There is no place for that here. There never will be.
ETA: Look here's the bottom line. You can say whatever stupid thing you want to here, we all get a good chuckle out of it most of the time. But when you start belittling the horrible situations some victims of abuse find themselves in, and nobody calls you on it, you stain everyone's reputation. That's where the line must be drawn between amusing and offensively ignorant, and detrimental to the community.
TFred
I want to wholeheartedly endorse what TFred says here.
Until and unless you have directly witnessed or experienced the full effect of domestic abuse, it's almost impossible to understand what is going through the minds of those who are involved.
I am a survivor of domestic abuse (yes, men can be the target of domestic abuse, too), and that is one of the major reasons that I am a strong advocate for self-defense. My ex-wife was abusive towards me, primarily emotionally, but occasionally with the threat of physical violence as well. I was able to get out of that bad situation, but I was willing to keep working within it, trying to help her. (She had a long history of bipolar depression and the abuse primarily came during the depressive bouts rather than the manic ones.) Ultimately, she decided that she didn't want help with it, and I was left with no other choice but to end the marriage.
When she was not going through one of her manic/depressive cycles, she was a wonderful person to be around, and I'm convinced that we could have made our marriage work if she had been willing to seek treatment that would help stabilize her episodes. I loved her dearly, and really wanted to help her, but she rejected the help I could have given.
Going through my divorce is the darkest time of my life, and in many ways my inability to help her haunts me to this day. The healing process takes years, if not decades. (I've been greatly helped in this process by my new wife, who I have known now for the last 5 years, and with whom I am expecting our third child any day now.)
Without knowing the full context of a specific domestic abuse situation, you really cannot judge the people involved.
What does this have to do with the proposed laws? Well, even after everything I went through with my ex, I still would not want her to be deprived of her rights because of either her behavior towards me or her bipolar depression. (Admittedly, according to two mutual friends she did make threats of violence against me during our separation leading to divorce, but she also hated guns with a passion.) Would I have given her a gun? Not at all. (I didn't get my first guns until about 6 months after the divorce was final.) But, I would not have insisted that her rights be permanently (or even over a long term, like 5 years) be denied to her.
Abuse is a very difficult subject to approach, and there are very few clear, bright lines that we can point to and say "this is fine, this is not". Each situation is unique, and you have to look at each individual case as such.