WalkingWolf
Regular Member
Since its in this very thread ... a cite is not needed.
As I saw no stones tossed, it is only reasonable to know what he is whimpering about.
Since its in this very thread ... a cite is not needed.
CITE those stones?
rat those buggers out. name the offenders and the saints, every one of them. No?.....Pack sand. Yes? Well then, let those you condemn defend themselves. Let those you anoint bask in the light of anointment.
No drive by chastisements!!
There aught to be a forum rule about that.
Sorry, I am not on this forum 24/7 as I work 2 jobs and care for an ailing wife, so my "contribution" didn't appear until post #73. How does my "tardiness" make what I said any less valid or justify the manner in which I feel the OP has been treated. Again, it is just my opinion. If you think he has been treated in a kind and fair manner, you are entitled to your opinion.
and as it was your opinion, so were the previous posters guidance on how to deal with the OPs situation as he posted it.
do you truly believe if the OP were chatting w/friends they would have been as kind and fair in describing how they would handle the situation? if you do then you do not have close friends as mine.
interestingly, studies have shown one of the main reasons ppl post in anonymous forums, chat rooms, sex sites, etc., is because the poster can be anything, or anybody, or discuss any topic that might be taboo discussing with there friends or family. additionally, those posting might not be presenting reality but their 'what if' reality of what if this occurs if i do this or that to get a sense of what could happen if they proceeded a certain way to deal with something that is bothering them.
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Didn't ask you to leave. Please stay.See my previous post for a less than complete list. My purpose in raising this issue is not to call anyone person on the carpet and I intentionally left off names. I am expressing my disappointment with the general climate that appears to be growing here on this forum (yes, I know I can leave, thanks) It is not healthy for the frank discussion of gun related issues and I am asking if we can not be "a little" more respectful in how we talk to each other. We are all supposedly on the same side, so why make folks feel alienated when they ask a question. This is not the only thread this has happened in. When folks ask for help, lets try and be helpful. If we don't like them because they personally put up with things we wouldn't do we have to stab them?
Ignore them, but do not place them on ignore. As I have previously posted, you seem to have made your choice and carry. She does seem to be coming around. Sometimes a marriage takes a licking and we find that it keeps on ticking. If you can survive this crowd a wife may be easy to handle.Do you want to know exactly why I posted here? Because I don't personally have any friends who carry. I have no one I can go to in person for advice on the subject. So I came here, hoping the collective experiences of this group would help give me ideas on how to discuss the subject and maybe swing things in my favor. And I DID get some good suggestions. But I also got a lot of BS that had nothing to do with anything, especially the "suggestions" that there's something deeper wrong in my marriage, and that I should seek counseling.
I took the "be the man" stuff with a grain of salt. But when people who don't know me start making claims about the state of my relationship beyond the questions I asked, then I have a problem with that, and I suspect many others would as well.
Question: Is your relationship strong enough for you to explain your position, disagree with each other, and move on? Or will she be unwavering in her protests against the idea, and pissed every time you carry with her around?
If it's the latter, then you have a long, tough road ahead.
Maybe, as a couple, take a self-defense class, or perhaps you can invite some friends over who have experience handling criminals and facilitate conversation about the dangers of the world today.......I really don't know what else to say man. I would hate to see a family completely broken up and divorced over something like this, while at the same time I cannot imagine not being able to carry myself.
My own experience with this issue: My wife was reluctant as well to have guns in the house, but after Hurricane Katrina, she was on board with "owning" a "single" gun. Then I quietly got my conceal permit a few years later, she knew about it but didn't understand why it was necessary, but didn't really protest too much. Now (multiple weapon purchases later mind you) with the Knock-out game happening...she is HAPPY I carry now.
I wish you the best, and please do update us as things progress.
We're definitely the former. We've been through quite a lot; this is just a difference of opinion. Just looking for ways I might sway her opinion.
Taking a class together is a good idea. I've been thinking about having her take one (as I've already taken one, plus my experience in the police academy), but taking it together might be a good idea.
I know if we have something happen where the gun is necessary, it'll change her mind about it. But really I never want that to happen. I hope I go my whole life without having to draw my weapon, let alone fire it. The hard part it would seem is going to be convincing her that it's worth having around without having to prove it first-hand.
Just looking for ways I might sway her opinion.
We're definitely the former. We've been through quite a lot; this is just a difference of opinion. Just looking for ways I might sway her opinion.
Taking a class together is a good idea. I've been thinking about having her take one (as I've already taken one, plus my experience in the police academy), but taking it together might be a good idea.
I know if we have something happen where the gun is necessary, it'll change her mind about it. But really I never want that to happen. I hope I go my whole life without having to draw my weapon, let alone fire it. The hard part it would seem is going to be convincing her that it's worth having around without having to prove it first-hand.
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How about one more angle that I have not seen on this fast-moving thread -
Is the wife a Lib?
If so then there are all sorts of other roots attached to her uncomfort around non-cops carrying guns - peer pressure of liberals' perception of how the world works, and all the other misconceptions that liberals 'feel' about things they don't THINK about - man-made global warming; only southerners are racists; illegals are good for the US economy; if we are nice to Islamists they will leave us alone; unemployment pay actually creates jobs; Obamacare will save you $2500 a year and you can keep your doctor; poor people need welfare but not jobs; single mother families are good; violent criminals are created by the cruel society, etc
If this is the case they you've got an awful lot of work to do in order to untrain how most Americans are being raised up these days.