I offered a succinct reply to the question on its face value, with a direct answer based upon what I conclude would be the response from the restaurant, other diners, the attendees from here and the rest of Virginia who could well read about it in the morning papers.....resulting in a public relations fiasco.
I understand Skid's argument and agree with it for the most part generally, BUT not as it applies specifically to our dinners.
Skid, who is extremely well intentioned and I consider him a learned friend, counters with 'sanctimonious' descriptor (pot calling the kettle black?) and how we do not need rules, but only gentle pressure. Putting the cards on the table, we
do have rules. They may be unwritten, but they are as real as if they were black letter law or at the least case law. Don't continually curse/swear in a loud voice, don't stand up to lecture the group on the need to overthrow our government by force of arms, don't break the table china intentionally, don't show up for our dinner smelling like you have just cleaned your septic tank, etc, etc.
Don't want to title these as rules? Then perhaps I might suggest that such a response/reaction really ought to be the expected/anticipated reaction. If one is to be responsible and considerate of others in the group, they cannot force acceptance of their conduct on the rest of us. See? It is not the gun, but the conduct/action of the individual.
Our dinners are put together by an ad hoc committee who could easily enough vote to set some standards were that ever felt necessary. We "build it" so that others may attend. If we withdraw, then someone else can step forward....they could do that now actually with a separate event.
How would I react? By using all in my persuasive powers to correct the situation, including talking to the restaurant management. If not successful, I would leave the premises and not be part or party to such.
Yes I recognize that the originator of the question was likely asking what to expect of others, not what he could do. Plus I expected that my reference to the "Joint Rules Committee" would be viewed as somewhat tongue-in-check by those who should know. The JRC rule was never formally/properly approved, yet is enforced.
I've said enough on this, maybe a tiny bit too much....but I did get an invitation