Since you are new, maybe you should read more and post less (just saying). Most of what you are asking was in the OP's First Post...
1. No statement of Men Only, Just No Children (READ: Adults only).
2. This is not an OFFICIAL EVENT of OCDO, MOC, or any other organizations. It was posted as an FYI Only and to gauge interest (speaking for eastmeyers here, but I believe this to be true).
3. Only 2 members who are in the official service structure of MOC posted here and eastmeyers is not one of them (nor am I or dougwg, etc).
4. The OP has been around here for awhile and wanted to make sure he CLEARLY POSTED Expectations for this Non-Official Event. We have learned to address potential problems BEFORE they occur (Failing to Plan is Planning to Fail).
5. The OP already posted that if has offended anyone, he apologizes. It is what it is.
6. Just so you are aware, the OCDO Owners retain the right to modify/delete any threads/posts as they see fit. They are the only "rulers" here on OCDO and have not posted in this thread.
Most of the time, people just arrange an informal shoot and just show-up. This time, you were INVITED yet still want to complain? You state "it is not a big deal", but you have posted 5 times about it so I do not believe you.