I had a beautiful, long and thoughtful reply that disappeared after my browser crashed, :banghead: so you'll get this instead........sorry
I can't think of a better standard, overall. It's by no means perfect, but the "reasonable man" doctrine is the basis of our legal system.
I'm hoping that as people get more educated, we move beyond the current view that any form of "swat on the rear" or similar is beneficial, when there are numerous studies, referenced in the links above, that show that corporal punishment is inherently inferior to other forms of discipline. Even so, I would agree that your definition is reasonable, even if I think there are better choices. As I think most people would. That type of near-consensus makes me think such a standard is the most workable, even if it's not perfect.
I hope that you aren't implying that I'm uneducated because our opinions differ, even after reading on the issue and based on experience? In any case, a "swat on the rear" is not always corporal punishment and in the context I used was not intended as such. Swatting a toddler on the rear as he attempts to grab something hot, or sharp, for example is designed to scare him from doing it again. Heck, I can scare toddlers sometimes just by looking at them funny LOL, and if that happened to work, I'd do that! The only time I personally would use corporal punishment is when the other avenues are exhausted and in the proper age group.
Where do we draw that line? I don't know, but I know from the research I've done that my personal line stops short of physical altercation. I try to convince others it's the best option, as well. However, some cases (such as the one in this video) are so blatantly obvious to me that anyone trying to defend the abusive actions therein become suspect.
I agree that the guy in the video lost it and went way over the top. It's the other cases I'm worried about though; say a child is just angry and wants to get his/her parents in trouble? We have to be very careful when inviting the government into our homes and proper deference must be given to the rights of the parents. I believe that there is a need for intervention in some cases but just as I subscribe to the belief that 100 guilty men going free is better than 1 innocent man going to prison I must follow that belief here. In other words, there is a need for substantive due process.
What basic human rights? I'll give you the right to life. Name others...
The right to life is based on the ultimate right to property in ones own body. Without that right, children can be subjected to any means of slavery or savage beatings. Think of parents as the government and the children as its citizens. A just government need only preclude those rights that aren't used responsibly. The only difference is that the parents are allowed prior restraint. As a tyrannical government should be relieved of it's power, so should abusive parents. But once again, as I wrote above, we need to be very careful here.