Need some help: wife opposes me carrying

[DaveT319]

Any Open carry meet ups in your area?

The best way to get over bigotry and prejudice is association.

Nothing that I've seen on this site. Any suggestions where else to look?

 

[WalkingWolf]

Everone should be married...........................at least once

Everyone should be so lucky as to have a spouse that understands and accepts OC.

It has everything to do with respect. If your wife decides to jump out of a airplane with a glorified umbrella, you should respect that the same as if she respects your Open Carry. If there is not that level of respect most marriages are doomed.

 

[EMNofSeattle]

Nothing that I've seen on this site. Any suggestions where else to look?

start one! find other people interested in guns in your area, and start your own open carry meetup! find and interest other people in the idea.

also check out http://www.northwestfirearms.com/forum.php? they seem a little "oregon centric" so maybe you'll find more people in your area there.

if you're up for a roadtrip you're always welcome to attend Washington events too since they're a tad more regular.

 

[davidmcbeth]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kvms4sP7CLk&feature=share

This guy figured it out .... go to 58 sec on video

 

[DaveT319]

Oh THAT guy... yeah, that's the kind of guy I want advice from! LOL

 

[WalkingWolf]

Oh THAT guy... yeah, that's the kind of guy I want advice from! LOL

You don't need advice, just do as your wife tells you.

 

[Grapeshot]

You don't need advice, just do as your wife tells you.

Sage advice. Heed or pay the price.

Ignore twice, but less than thrice

 

[BigLig45]

start one! find other people interested in guns in your area, and start your own open carry meetup! find and interest other people in the idea.

also check out http://www.northwestfirearms.com/forum.php? they seem a little "oregon centric" so maybe you'll find more people in your area there.

if you're up for a roadtrip you're always welcome to attend Washington events too since they're a tad more regular.

This is something I am trying to do myself, start an OC outing group. I have a few folks I work with (Military) that are talking about it. Figure we are going to have a BBQ in one of the popular parks here. Part is because I want my wife to get more involved in shooting. She accepts that I own, carry, and shoot... I would like to have her shoot with me.

A lot of great advice, once you weave through everything else. One thing I have noticed with a lot of the examples provided, LIBS ignore the human factor in all of them. Even car acciedents are blamed on road conditions or texting or talking on the cellphone...not the drivers. To them, it is NEVER the human's fault, always the object.

 

[sudden valley gunner]

start one! find other people interested in guns in your area, and start your own open carry meetup! find and interest other people in the idea.

also check out http://www.northwestfirearms.com/forum.php? they seem a little "oregon centric" so maybe you'll find more people in your area there.

if you're up for a roadtrip you're always welcome to attend Washington events too since they're a tad more regular.

+1 Post a link in your state forum find a date and set a meet up, lunch, dinner, or what ever...they may or may not come.

 

[pistolprincess45]

Personally I wouldn't marry you if you disliked guns or didn't shoot. Makes zero sense to live a life with someone who doesn't like what you like or opposes something you deeply care about. Good luck. ;-)


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[WalkingWolf]

Personally I wouldn't marry you if you disliked guns or didn't shoot. Makes zero sense to live a life with someone who doesn't like what you like or opposes something you deeply care about. Good luck. ;-)


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While that may be true for you, it is not for everybody. The point I try to keep driving home is that when a person marries they do not ditch their independence. I see nothing wrong if a spouse does not like guns or does not shoot, as long as she does not interfere with her mate doing so. I can see her having a problem if the person is attempting to push guns on them(indoctrinate them). I believe that if a person is going to change they will want and do that change on their own.

I have dated a lot of liberal girls, most of them did not like guns. But not one of them ever told me not to carry.

BTW I see you are a new member~~~Welcome to OCDO!

 

[pistolprincess45]

That makes sense and yes it's true for me; just my opinion on it.


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[MyWifeSaidYes]

I don't have a problem when I hear that a person's spouse says they don't like their guns.

I do start to worry when I hear that a person's gun says they don't like their spouse.

 

[7om5hipp]

It took my wife a moment to accept that I carry, she kept asking if I was going to carry and I asked if she was going to wear that dress.....Nah, I am not that suicidal.

I simply told her that if something where to ever happen to us or our kids I was going to do everything I could to stop it. She accepts and even carries at times.

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[DanNabis]

My response is a bit callous, I apologize. But -

Have you tried Divorce?

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ok ok ok... actual idea here maybe -

Have you considered taking her to classes on safety / range practice / carry & defense?

Maybe she would change her mind after having the ideas calmly, clearly explained by an instructor (as a 3rd party - excuse my generalization, but I find that 3rd party input can remove/work around the defensive barrier on connecting on an intellectual level or at least if it back fires then the negative response may directed at someone else who will not have to encounter as often as you may.

 

[DanNabis]

Also, have a discussion or find a route to discussing the effective usefulness of a gun even with out firing a shot.

Many encounters are avoided by either just carrying - criminal chooses easier target
or presenting the arm - criminal fears for live and limb and flees.

If someone is willing to aggressively approach a presented firearm then they likely have no fear of death and are committed to doing reprehensible actions.

Living in "safer" areas is sort of a misnomer.. Crime is opportunistic and happens all over.
Some places are only 'more' dangerous because there are exponentially more people populating that area. I'm sure there are many factors. It is impossible to predict what a criminal will do/think. I doubt that criminals considerations of how "safe" a place is have major impacts on their poor choices. Actually a "safe" place seems like a place that a violent criminal would feel more comfortable in unless that place was "safe" because it was well defended..

just my thoughts

All regular law abiding carriers will probably put more consideration in to if and when and where they shoot than criminals.
I doubt a robber/murderer has any care for what is behind/beyond their target.
Also the murderer would not likely stop after killing a victim, whether an armed or unarmed victim - they would continue to commit crime.
Whereas a defensive shooter stops shooting when the danger is resolved.

 

[DanNabis]

While that may be true for you, it is not for everybody.

Alas ^this is a very good point.

The heart knows no politics.

I know my heart has been won by a wonderful person who happens to be opposed to my stances on rights.
She is not experienced with firearms and her lensed experiences through entertainment and the sensationalist news media (Pulitzer Prize, Hearst News and Awards - both are considered the modern parents of yellow journalism/sensationalism..) have effectively scared her witless to the true nature of responsibly owned and properly handled guns.

I think the media both fictional and officially factual need to be objectively considered and reviewed on their portrayals of guns and violence. And further their effects on the thoughts and opinions of individuals.
So many seem guided by that which is essentially state-supported fiction.

 

[color of law]

I don't take no orders from no woman, by the way. By the way, I take no orders from no women.

Woman, did you not get that, by the way? By the way, did you not get that, woman?

This problem would not be a problem if women did not make problems out of nothing.

 

[Grapeshot]

I don't take no orders from no woman, by the way. By the way, I take no orders from no women.

Woman, did you not get that, by the way? By the way, did you not get that, woman?

This problem would not be a problem if women did not make problems out of nothing.

Double negative understood.

Nevertheless, let us know when you get out of the hospital.

 

[DanNabis]

It has everything to do with respect. If your wife decides to jump out of a airplane with a glorified umbrella, you should respect that the same as if she respects your Open Carry. If there is not that level of respect most marriages are doomed.

+10 Amen.

Relationships should not be about control.
Respect!